Marriage they say is a beautiful thing but if you ask many men out there what marriage is to them or what marriage has brought to them or will they get married if they are given chances to rewind time, their responses will be in negative form or NO.
That same step (marriage) is the next step to be taken by me but I have one unanswered question. I am a young man in my 30s, currently free from any dating relationship and about to begin my search for a life partner, but I like being cleared/well-informed about something before going into it.
Pardon me for this long note I am about to dish out and the question I will be asking at the end.
For sometimes now, people around me have been telling me I am next in line to get married, some telling me to ensure I bring a responsible lady home and all that.
My mom do tell me she won’t rush me to get married but as an observant person you will notice she really wants me to bring a woman(wife) home.
My dad told me sometimes ago that if I don’t have a lady, that maybe they should search for a young good girl for me early next year.
My younger ones are expecting me to take that step so they can start planning on theirs and all that.
All these are for their own good or benefits, I am not saying they don’t deserve it but I have been trying to get a tangible reason to get married i.e what is the SPECIAL thing (benefit) it will add to my life, I am the one getting married not them.
“Na me wan wear the shoe.”
A bikeman, popularly known as Okadaman that do come to my place told me story about himself and big opportunities that marriage has made him miss.
In addition to his words and those I have heard from others, the fear of things going south, disappearance of peace of mind and all that are other factors.
Presumed(anticipated) benefits which are not as they are expected to be again are)
Children can be gotten without marriage, for example: C. Ronaldo, Mikel, and others did that and they are doing well.
Foods can be gotten from outside or prepared by the man or any other person that is not a wife for the man. Moreover, how many of them can cook well like our mothers? I’m a better cook than most ladies I have come across.
That is an overstatement in our present society. It is even more noticeable in dating relationship than in some marriages these days.
That is the cheapest service/thing to get after air and water(clean water is even more expensive). Moreover many marriages are lacking sexually. It is worse if the man has high sex drive aka high libido.
I don’t want to go there because it is an open fact that instead of getting support, the man is being leached/milked of the one he has.
I can still remember how some married men will pack their cars at the junction, stay inside their cars for long before driving home, some go to the bar/relaxation centers to chill before going home, some don even like going home. You all know why?
With all these in mind, I want to ask this question that has been bothering me because I need to sort it before taking the step…
Now, My Question Is:-